What do you like the most: presenting or Q+A? Most people have a preference for one or the other. Some like the presentation better. While presenting you are in control. One can rehearse the script till they fully master it. Others prefer the Q+A part. While in conversation they feel connected with the audience.
The preference for being in control or being in contact with the audience often explains the preference for presentation or Q+A. The underlying assumption here is that during the presentation you, being the candidate, have control, while there is almost no connection. During the Q+A part there is connection, but this comes with a loss of control. We believe this is not a given. During the presentation there can be connection and during the Q+A you can be in control.
Let us first focus on the presentation part.
Connection
As stated before, use of voice is an important part of an online presentation. The digital version of you is largely deprived of your non-verbal communication. Your voice is therefore the most important means of transferring your enthusiasm and connecting with your audience. For this you have e.g. intonation, volume, speed, pronunciation, and silences at your disposal. At the same time, there is a tiny bit of visual body language left. The micro-expressions that play an important role in in-person settings are almost gone. Movements towards and away from the camera, repetitive hand gestures, and sidewards movements changing your silhouette in relation to the edges of the screen are extra visible.
All this is the outside of presenting. You can finetune and rehearse these auditory and visual aspects in advance. But, a fixation on them also puts an extra claim on your working memory. And, as we explained in the previous step, your working memory is already reduced because of the stress. Reconnecting your brain to the rest of your body by, breathing, grounding, and functional movement is an important first step. If you are in contact with yourself, your body language usually follows naturally your story and therefore connects you to your audience. That paves the way for your content.
Still, there usually is some work to be done on the behaviour stage of the CBT cycle we introduced before. We display certain behaviours to reassure ourselves. Most of the time we are not aware of these behaviours. Common examples are speeding up, low volume, monotonous talking, and tilting the head. All these are behavioural expressions of the stressful state of the body. Tilting the head, and exposing the neck could be conceived as a ‘like me’ sign. Speeding up is an equivalent of running away. Low volume is a way to make yourself disappear.
The panel members will notice these signs of insecurity. It will distract from the message you want to convey, and it will (often subconsciously) influence their judgement. They might think for instance: ‘If you do not demonstrate enthusiasm in this interview, then you are probably also not enthusiastic about the project. Why would we fund it then?’
Text frame: Stay who you are
Many candidates belief that they need to be someone else to make a good impression. This negative assumption tells that they are not charismatic enough and that charisma is what it takes. Stay who you are, we countlessly said in the past decade. There is nothing wrong with being thoughtful or expressive. Do not spend time and brain capacity on trying to be somebody that you are not. You can work on those things that prevent you from being yourself. Also within your own comfort zone, you can show bits of the opposite of your own style. This alternation makes your performance exiting to watch.
What can you do about it: Reassurance behaviour
Because you are often not aware of your reassurance behaviour, awareness is a starting point. A colleague, your spouse, a friend, probably can tell. Otherwise, recording yourself presenting, might help you to discover your reassurance behaviours. If you want to stop doing these things, exercising the opposite behaviour step by step through what we call ‘clicks’ is a proven method of overcoming them. The following exercise walks you through the steps.