Grounding
Stress ‘disconnects’ your head from the rest of your system. Restoring this unity will also restore your working memory. Things you can do to achieve this are:
- Wiggling your toes in your shoes while talking.
- Sitting up straight and feeling the earth below your feet and the chair in your back.
- Even better: stand up. Feel the earth below your feet, straighten your back and your shoulders. This also increases the volume of your lungs and thus improves oxygen uptake.
Functional movement
Stress urges you to move. There are roughly two responses. Some respond by fixating themselves. The urge to move can transform into dysfunctional movement like repetitive hand gestures, cradling, swivelling on their chair. Others respond by over-expression. They move pretty much everything: their head, eyes, mimics, shoulders, etc. They are all overt het place.
Both responses result in sub-optimal performance. A better way to deal with it is to follow the urge to move in a dosed and functional way so that movement supports the story. Those who fixate can learn to move more and those who move too much can learn to move less.
Exercise: Triangulation
The way to exercise the three tools of reconnecting with yourself is triangulation. It goes as follows:
- Place three post-it notes in a triangle on the ground, thirty centimetres apart. Write on them their respective action: “Breathe”, “Ground”, and “Move”.
- Search for silence. Find a natural silence in your story for max three seconds. Think about transitions between slides or sections of the presentation. During the Q+A before you start answering there such a natural moment of silence.
- Start the exercise by subsequently:
- Put your hand on your diaphragm and breathe towards your fingers. Here you will benefit from the earlier breathing exercise.
- Wiggle your toes in your shoes and feel the soles of your feet.
- Very small, gentle, and functional movement of your feet.
- Continue your story, or start answering.
- When you really master the exercise, you can breathe, ground, and move simultaneously real-time.
If you have this skill of staying in touch in the heat of the moment you only have to bring that magnificent brain of yours.